Does everyone have an opinion on how you should handle your divorce?

Are you tired of saying, "Thank you, good idea,” when what you really want to say is "mind your own business?" You don’t want to start an argument with a well-meaning friend (there’s already enough stress and conflict in your life, right?!), but nodding and smiling through gritted teeth is exhausting.

What to do? Prepare & share

Prepare

It would be great if the perfect message just rolled off your tongue, no forethought or follow-up needed. Unfortunately, that’s not what happens for most of us. So often we worry about whether we should say anything at all, then about what we said, and ultimately replay conversations over and over to uncover something missed. If you’ve been in this vicious cycle, you know it can feel even more intense during divorce when it’s easy to second guess so many decisions. I’ve been there, too. You want to do what’s best for yourself and your kids, but real conversations are hard, and don’t always go the way we plan. When something unexpected happens or you’re triggered it can be very easy to go “off script.”

I created these fill-in-the-blank scripts so you can be confident and prepared for whatever someone (anyone!) says. Think of this work like insurance: you may never need it but you don’t want to go without it.

Gift yourself 30-60 minutes

Use these scripts exactly as written, or as a foundation for something different. The key is that they feel authentic and improve your confidence.

Share as needed

It can be scary to stand up for yourself, especially if you haven’t always done so. It’s also understandable if you’re worried about how people will respond when you set and enforce clear boundaries. Change makes some people nervous, and friends and family may not recognize this new, confident you. Don’t let that deter you from saying what you need!

When you share your messages, I hope you will do so with a vision of the amazing future you deserve in your sights. Divorce is an opportunity for growth and transformation if you choose to see it that way. It may seem far away today, but you CAN be better on the other side, and you don’t have to do it alone.

Use this guide and other free tools to take the steps you need to get through this time and move toward a meaningful life you’ll love.

Ready to dig in and figure out who you are at your best? Download my free Better Than Before Divorce™️ workbook here and start moving toward the amazing future you deserve. You CAN be BETTER on the other side!