You're used to handling hard things.
Divorce is Different.
It’s not that you don’t know how to make decisions—it’s that everything feels more charged, more personal, and harder to think through clearly than anything you’ve navigated before. And the moments keep coming.
I’m Andra Davidson—Certified Divorce Coach®, mediator, and someone who has been exactly where you are.
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Does This Sound Like YOu?
- A message comes in from your ex and your stomach drops.
You know you shouldn’t respond right now—but the urge is hard to ignore. - A conversation starts reasonably and somehow ends in a blow-up. You replay it afterward wondering what happened.
- You draft a response, second-guess every word, and either send something you regret or say nothing and stew about it.
- Your kids ask a question you don’t know how to answer. You say something—and spend the next hour wondering if you handled it right.
- Everything feels urgent. It’s hard to know what actually needs your attention and what can wait.
You’re trying to make important decisions while you’re triggered, exhausted, and running out of bandwidth.And the decisions you make in those moments have consequences that are hard to undo.
This isn’t weakness. It’s what divorce does—both to men and women who are otherwise good at managing pressure.
“Working with Andra felt like having a teammate through the whole process. I felt emotionally hijacked the entire time—any decision felt too big, even trivial ones. Especially how to respond to my ex on even the smallest things. Andra brought clarity to those situations and responses that I couldn’t see on my own.”
There’s a gap in most support.
Most people navigating divorce are doing some version of the same thing—trying to stay calm, trying to think before they respond, trying to keep things civil for the kids.
That’s the gap this program fills.
Your attorney is focused on legal strategy. Your therapist helps you process what you’re going through. But neither of them is there for the hundreds of smaller moments.
You have more control than it feels like right now. That’s where we start.
It’s not for lack of trying. It’s because managing divorce well requires a specific set of skills most people have never needed before—and no one hands you a manual when the process starts. (Until now!)
THe SKills that actually Help
After years working with clients through every kind of divorce, these are the skills truly help.
Most people skip straight from trigger to reaction. The work we do together builds the pause in between. That way, when something comes up—and something always comes up—you can choose how you move through it.
Steady yourself
Steady yourself before you respond—so you’re not making decisions from a triggered place.
See what’s actually happening
See what’s actually happening—not just how it feels in the moment.
Decide how you want to respond
Decide how you want to respond—in a way that reflects your values and protects what matters most.
Follow through
Follow through—clearly, intentionally, in a way you’ll feel good about later.
Is This a Good Fit for you?
This program is right for you if:
- You’re a capable adult who is used to handling complexity well—but you’re frustrated that divorce has knocked you off your footing in ways that feel unfamiliar.
- You care deeply about how you show up as a parent during this process—and want your kids to see you handle something hard with steadiness, not just survive it.
- You’re willing to focus on what you can control—your responses, your decisions, your communication—rather than waiting for your ex to change.
- You want practical tools and direct input, not just a place to vent.
- You’re ready to handle this in a way you’ll feel proud of.
This program is NOT for you if…
- You want someone to validate that everything is your ex’s fault.
- You’re looking for legal advice or litigation strategy.
- You’re not open to looking at your own responses and reactions honestly.
The Better Than Before Divorce™ Program
$1,497
This program gives you the tools, support, and direct access you need to handle whatever comes up—so you’re not figuring it out alone, reacting in the moment, or making decisions you’ll regret later.
Full details here.
What's Included:
- A private kickoff session to get clear on where you are and what to focus on first.
- 90 days of direct voice and message support when you need help with conversations, decisions, or what to say next.
- Practical divorce tools and resources including videos, worksheets, scripts, recordings & more.
- Weekly group office hours to bring real-life questions and get grounded support.
- A private community with others navigating divorce.
- 12 months of access to the program, tools, and community.
What’s included:
A private 60-minute kickoff session
We start with a focused conversation about your specific situation—where you are in the process, what’s immediately in front of you, and what matters most right now. You get clarity on what to focus on and a thoughtful approach to what’s coming.
90 days of direct Voxer support
It’s 9pm. A message just came in and you’re not sure whether to respond, ignore it, or push back. Instead of sitting with it until midnight, you send a voice note and get clear, grounded input before you respond.
That’s what this is for.
When something comes up—a message you’re not sure how to respond to, a conversation you need to prepare for, a decision you keep going back and forth on—you don’t have to sit with it alone.
Send a message, a voice note, or a draft. Ask “how do I handle this?” or “does this response make things better or worse?” Get clear, grounded input so you can decide how you want to move forward.
Available Monday–Thursday with responses within 24 hours. Weekends responded to by the next business day.
A complete framework—there when you need it, not homework
Everything here was built from real situations—and I add to it regularly as new questions come up. The library is always growing.
The program gives you direct support for what’s happening right now, and a complete framework to draw from throughout the process.
Along with the live support, short, practical videos cover everything from emotional regulation and communication skills to co-parenting conversations, boundary setting, and planning what comes next. Accompanying worksheets and script templates are there if and when you need them—not requirements, not homework.
Some people work through everything. Most use what’s relevant to where they are in the process.
There’s no schedule to keep up with and nothing you have to do. The support is there when you need it, and so is the depth when you want it.
Also included:
- Short audio recordings you can listen to during a walk or in the car—to reset, refocus, or prepare before something difficult.
- A script pack for the hardest conversations: talking to your kids about the divorce, telling your spouse you want a divorce, handling unwanted advice from friends and family, and writing letters to update people in your life.
- A complete workbook with all worksheets, journal prompts, and note pages in one place.
Weekly Office Hours
Bring a real situation—a message, a conversation, a decision you’re working through—and get grounded, practical input.
Women’s and men’s sessions are held separately, so the conversation stays relevant to your experience.
60 minutes per week. Open to all program members.
A private community
Connection with others who understand what you’re navigating—without the noise of public forums or the pressure to perform.
A place to ask questions, share what’s working, and be reminded that you’re not alone in this.
12 months of program access
Divorce doesn’t resolve in 90 days. You’ll have access to the full program, tools, and community for 12 months—so you can return to the resources as needed.
Enrollment is limited to ensure every member receives responsive, personal support.
The investment
$1,497
Most people going through divorce are already spending significantly on attorneys. Every reactive email, every unnecessary escalation, every conversation that goes sideways has a cost—in legal fees, in time, and in the toll it takes on your kids and on you.
This program is designed to help you handle those moments differently—so you’re reducing conflict, making clearer decisions, and not paying to clean up situations that didn’t have to escalate in the first place.
One conversation handled well can save you more than this program costs.
Try it for 14 days.
If you join and decide within the first 14 days that this isn’t the right support for where you are, reach out and we’ll refund you. No complicated process.
This program works when you’re ready to use it. If the timing isn’t right, we’d rather you come back when it is.
If you’re hesitating
This is a real decision—especially when you’re already managing a lot.
You don’t want to invest in something that won’t actually help when it matters.
Here’s what’s also true:
Every week you navigate this without support is another week of second-guessing, overthinking, and handling difficult moments without anyone in your corner.
The cost of that isn’t always visible—but it shows up in the decisions you make when you’re triggered, the conversations that escalate when they didn’t have to, and the moments with your kids you wish had gone differently.
This program won’t make divorce easy. Nothing does. What it gives you is a way to handle it that you’ll feel good about in the moment and later—and support so you’re not carrying all of it alone.
About Andra
I’ve been through this myself.
After a 20-year marriage, I found myself navigating the same kinds of moments you’re dealing with now—the conversations, the decisions, the reactions I didn’t always feel good about afterward.
I made a decision early on to handle it in a way I could feel proud of later—for my kids, and for myself. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. And it changed how I approach difficult situations permanently.
Before becoming a coach, I spent more than 25 years in crisis communications and strategic messaging—work that taught me how people make decisions under pressure, and how the right guidance can completely shift outcomes.
I’m a Certified Divorce Coach®, mediator, and collaborative divorce professional. And what I actually do is help you handle whatever comes up—especially when you’re not sure what to do.
I built this program because this is the support I needed during my own divorce and couldn’t find. You don’t have to figure this out alone.
Outside of coaching, I find joy in my blended family—my twins, my stepkids, and our three fur babies. Everything I’ve learned reminds me daily that life after divorce truly can be better than before.
That’s my why. And it’s why I built this.
Frequently Asked Questions
Questions on the process? I have answers!
If you've got any additional questions, feel free email me at: andra@betterthanbeforedivorce.com
No. Therapy helps you process what you’re going through. This is support for what happens in between—when a message comes in and you’re not sure how to respond, when a conversation starts going sideways, or when you’re facing a decision and keep second-guessing yourself. The focus is on helping you think clearly, respond thoughtfully, and handle situations in a way you’ll feel good about later.
This program was built with exactly that in mind. The skills and support here matter more, not less, in high-conflict situations. You can’t change how they behave. You can change how you respond—and that shift has a real impact on how things unfold.
You don’t need to carve out large blocks of time. This is designed to be something you turn to as things come up—a short audio before a hard conversation, a Voxer message when something lands wrong, Office Hours when you want direct input. It works around your life, not the other way around
Imagine a few weeks from now…
Things aren’t perfect. But they do feel more manageable.
You’re not reacting to every message the second it comes in. You’re taking a minute. Thinking it through. Responding more intentionally.
Conversations still aren’t easy—but they’re not escalating the same way.
You feel clearer about the decisions in front of you. You’re not going back and forth as much, or second-guessing yourself afterward.
And when something does come up, you know where to go. You’re not sitting with it alone, trying to figure it out in your head.
You’re handling things in a way you’ll feel good about later.
